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I love music. Always have. It’s been my escape, my therapy, and my go-to whenever the world got too loud. Honestly, headphones are the greatest invention of all time. And live concerts? How good. I recently went to see Pearl Jam with Amber and my sister Kathleen—35,000 people all singing the same lyrics. That night is etched into my memory as one of the highlights of my life. Music grounds me. Always has. And the science backs it up—music helps your mind heal. Whether you’re singing, playing,...

Trust me you are going to love this. I remember when I joined the Army and went through army recruiting, one of the things that helped my mental health straight away was yelling. We were taught to yell and scream from day one. Bayonet fighting, learning drill movements, it was all yell, yell, yell. It was amazing. We are basically told our whole lives to be quiet, fuck that, yelling is good for your soul. Yelling is often viewed negatively, conjuring images of anger, frustration, and...

Okay—I fucking love narrative therapy. I stumbled across it by accident, and when I started reading about it, I felt like someone had custom-built a mental health approach just for me. It changed my life. No exaggeration. And the best part? It’s now one of my favourite things to do. Narrative therapy is a different kind of therapy—it’s based on the idea that the stories we tell ourselves shape how we see the world, and how we see ourselves. Our past, our identity, our pain, our victories—all...

I never thought I’d enjoy writing—let alone love it. But here we are. These days, it’s one of my favourite things to do. I recently went back and read the stuff I wrote at the very start of my journaling journey. It was raw, messy, and sometimes hard to read—but damn, it was rewarding. Seeing how far I’ve come gave me perspective. And pride. Journaling—writing down your thoughts, feelings, and experiences—is more than just putting words on a page. It’s a tool. A powerful one. It’s your space...

You might be thinking, “Why is this only Chapter 5?” Fair call. But here’s why: before you sit down with a professional, you need to start getting honest with yourself. You need to begin showing up as you. Because honesty is what makes therapy work. Without it, you’re wasting your time. Now let’s state the obvious—getting professional help is one of the smartest things you can do for your mental health. Think of a mental health professional as a blacksmith—they’re there to help hammer out the...

Yes, Affirmations. Just hear me out. They work. Once a day, tell yourself you're happy. Tell yourself you're grateful for your life. Or whatever version of that hits home for you. It doesn’t have to sound deep or poetic. It just must come from you. Affirmations are simple—but incredibly powerful. I do mine daily without fail. And no matter how I’m feeling, they help shift my mindset. Every time.

Why Affirmations Matter for Mental Health

Affirmations are positive, direct statements that...

Just so you feel better about the name of this chapter, let me say this upfront: a lot of men become great liars—not because we’re bad people, but because we’ve been trained by life to hide what we really feel. We lie to others. Worse, we lie to ourselves. And sometimes, it just feels easier that way. But here’s the thing: you don’t have to keep doing that.

Once you find the courage to talk about your mental health, to say what you really feel and think, something powerful happens. It’s...

This chapter—Just be yourself—is so important, especially in today’s world. We’re all different. We’ve all got our own skills, struggles, strengths, and emotional baggage. We are not like those perfect eggs in the supermarket. Some of us are like the ones straight from the chicken pen— a bit dirty, maybe with a feather or a bit of shit still stuck on—and that’s completely fine. It’s okay to be you. And if people don’t like that? Fuck them. That’s their problem, not yours.

It took me a long...

Courage and conviction are two powerful attributes that play a pivotal role in the journey of healing for men struggling with mental health. When I reflect on my own life, it still blows my mind that I had the courage and conviction to do something as drastic as taking a weapon to a place I associated with deep pain—yet I couldn’t find that same courage to talk honestly about what was really going on inside me. If I could go back, I wouldn’t have kept it all bottled up for forty years. I...